Between people long-married there is a diplomacy of the eyes

Gregory Benford
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For married people, there are times when their spouse will look at them with a blank expression, as if they are strangers to each other. That eerie expression is the diplomacy of the eyes, which is an expressionless gaze that says nothing. It can be a sign of tension between you and your spouse, or it can be a sign that you are about to say something important.  To avoid that expression, try to be non-verbal. Maintain eye contact and do not look away.

If you find yourself getting frustrated with this silent staring game, try to think about what you want to say prior to saying it. For instance, think about why your spouse is looking at you like that. If you do so, the words will come out naturally without any difficulty.

Source: Foundations Fear

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